Menu
Lifestyle

The way of the word

An unthinking tirade is not going to resolve any misunderstanding between two people.
An unthinking tirade is not going to resolve any misunderstanding between two people. SIphotography

WORDS. We hear them, read them and are driven by them every day. How many do you use and to what effect?

Recently I was involved in an interesting experience in which the conversation was dominated by one person. This person seemed blindly unaware of the impact that their stream of consciousness/verbal diatribe was having on their audience that - politely perhaps - couldn't escape. The outpouring was liberally littered with obscenities that added no value to what was being said and in fact diminished the willingness of people to listen.

As an extrovert, I've also had a tendency to speak my thoughts to find a main idea that could be shaped and developed into some practical outcome. The effect of that was to thoroughly confuse my team, my wife and from time to time my friends as I'd take them on a journey which often would go so far left of field that it became fantasy rather than a solution.

The adage that the only thing I have control over in this world is me, got me thinking about the value of words and the gift we've been given regarding language, thought and the capacity to speak. It has also had me review the words that I use, the thinking and intention behind those words and very much the impact on others of what I say or write.

What that has done is to make me listen more and express less. It has made me realise that communication done well is almost an art form and is driven by the value we place on the other person or people who are involved in any dialogue.

The greatest writers of our age use a paucity of words to convey powerful meaning which connects with the reader. Imagine if we all could do that. Use the bare minimum of well thought out words, clearly focused on subject and listener, that provide simple clarity in either reader or listener and that connect them in a way that assists to resolve issues or solve problems.

How much awareness do you have about the impact of your words? How much time do you spend considering your intention behind what you say? Is it your ego shaping your comment so you're competing with others or are you committed to being clear?

Personally I do not see myself as a great communicator. I'd really like to be, and given my response to the situation I described earlier there's plenty of room for a lot more practice on my part.

How about you?

Nick Bennett is a facilitator, performance coach and partner of Minds Aligned: www.mindsaligned.com.au

Topics:  communication mind you words



Stolen ute believed to be in local area sought by police

WANTED: Police are appealing for information to help locate a stolen white Volkswagen Amarok, similar to this one.

Can you help police find this stolen car?

A shift away from tragedy

Coffs Harbour Traffic and Highway Patrol Supervisor Sergeant Jarrod Langan and Senior Constable Mark Whittaker.

Highway patrol officers see on-road risk taking on a daily basis.

Fire concerns under rising heat

Rural Fire Service crews are on standby for what could be high fire danger on the coast this weekend.

RFS ready for four days of 30-degree heat and chance of bushfires

Local Partners

Big question about Ardern's pregnancy

NEW Zealand Prime Minister Jacinda Ardern’s pregnancy announcement has made worldwide news today, and there’s one question everyone’s asking but shouldn’t.

Facebook ‘birth’ post: ‘Disturbing and creepy’

A Denver woman created a hilarious 'birth' photoshoot to announce the arrival of her new kitten. (Elizabeth Woods-Darby) Celebrating Beloved Cats Everywhere. Credit - Various via Storyful

LUCY Shultz and her boyfriend pose for pictures typical of any new parents with...

Boy cliff jumps, rides home with fractured back

Boy fractures back after cliff jumping in Moorooduc quarry. Picture: 3AW

A 12-year-old daredevil defied his mother’s warning by jumping from a 20m cliff

Revealed: Whincup’s new Red Bull wheels

Jamie Whincup gives a sneak peak of his new Holden ZB Red Bull.

First look at Jamie Whincup’s new Red Bull Racing ZB Commodore

New cancer screening test set to save lives

The new blood test will help identify eight types of early-stage cancer. Picture:   Khuloud T. Al-Jamal & Izzat Suffian

A NEW blood test is set to save millions of livee

Kim K reveals ‘hard’ reality of using a surrogate

FILE - In this Nov. 4, 2017 file photo, Kim Kardashian West arrives at the LACMA Art + Film Gala at the Los Angeles County Museum of Art in Los Angeles. West is promoting Screenshop, which dishes up a range of shoppable fashion and accessory options based on a phone screen grab a user takes from social media or anywhere else. (Photo by Willy Sanjuan/Invision/AP, File)

Kim Kardashian opens up about her struggles not being able to carry her third...

Search for kind Coast stranger who left note at grave

BECS BLESSING: A stranger named Bec left a note and bunch of flowers at the grave of a Coast familys daughter, Indianna. Pictured: Indiannas parents Nicole and Chris Gillogly.

STRANGER leaves kind note at the grave of a Coast family's daughter.