Father's Day delivers best gift for this dad

Stephen Milgate is celebrating his first Father's day. He and his wife Tamika went through IVF for 6 years, now their lives have been transformed with baby girl Aaliya.
Stephen Milgate is celebrating his first Father's day. He and his wife Tamika went through IVF for 6 years, now their lives have been transformed with baby girl Aaliya. John McCutcheon

IT COMES around every 12 months, but this Father's Day just being a dad has been a precious gift for this Coast father.

Stephen Milgate has been waiting more than six years for Father's Day to arrive.

The Landsborough dad and his wife, Tamika, were ready to give up on trying to have children after six years of IVF, 11 embryo transfers and multiple miscarriages.

"This was our last go at IVF," he said.

"We thought 'if this doesn't work it's not meant to be'."

Tamika spent the first 20 weeks of her pregnancy in hospital with severe morning sickness, and it was not until Stephen was holding his newborn daughter in his arms that he truly believed he would be a father.

"We'd been through the whole thing before and at the end of it ended up losing the baby," he said.

"Every check-up we were still just waiting for something to be wrong, and then you get the good news that everything is alright...

"We didn't believe it until she came out."

Four weeks later nothing could wipe the smile off of Stephen's face.

"Aaliya's just been a perfect baby, really," he said.

"She must have known how much we wanted her."

The family will spend their first Father's Day by the beach, but Stephen said he would be quite happy sitting at home all weekend with his favourite girls.

He spared a thought for others going through their own pregnancy troubles.

"We both wanted it for so long," he said.

"We thought it was never going to happen, but it did.

"It's good to let anyone else going through it know that it does happen."

Queensland Fertility Group and The Fertility Centre clinical director Dr James Moir said about one-in-six couples needed some form of help to conceive.

"The general advice is it takes about 12 months for people who are otherwise completely healthy, with no apparent problems, to fall pregnant," he said.

Women in their late 30s and 40s, or women with known health problems or unusual cycles, he advised, might need intervention after six months.

"There's a fairly mixed group of people that come to us and they have different problems with regard to fertility, and it will take some women longer than others," he said.

"The general rule is that we can expect younger women to have more success cycle-for-cycle than women who are older."

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