Parents of stillborn baby welcome new son into the world

MONTHS after the death of their daughter Scarlett, Sarah Riseham and her partner Aaron Taylor found out they were having another baby.

How do you celebrate a new life when you've just lost one?

Scarlett was the couple's second child, after their son Dominic, but she died due to a complication with her umbilical cord.

Still grieving the loss of their stillborn child, the couple had to come to terms with the idea they would soon be back in the labour ward.

"Honestly I didn't want to believe it at first because it had only been a couple of months since we lost Scarlett - I was unsure about it the whole time," Ms Riseham said.

The new pregnancy wasn't planned.

"Mentally I wasn't sure I wanted it to be true; I had my moments where I wished I wasn't pregnant again because I didn't want the same thing to happen again but, at the same time, it felt different; it kind of felt right in some way."

Ms Riseham balanced her fears and looked forward to meeting their child.

Matthias John Taylor was born on June 9 at 5.10am at 51cm in length and weighing 3500g.

Aaron Taylor and Sarah Riseham with their sons Dominic and Matthias.
Aaron Taylor and Sarah Riseham with their sons Dominic and Matthias. Kay Reilly Photography

The family had remembered Scarlett's anniversary just a few days earlier on May 23.

"The birth was quite quick - they broke my waters at 4.10am, Aaron only made in into the room with five minutes to spare - I was in stage 1 labour for 43 minutes and stage 2 for seven minutes," she said.

But the birth wasn't without complications.

"I was scared out of my brain knowing that the whole pregnancy went fine, labour went fine and all because he had come out too fast that he had swallowed some fluid and it was now sitting in his lungs so he was having difficulty breathing," Ms Riseham said.

Matthias was taken away to the special care nursery to be placed in an incubator.

"But after four hours he wasn't improving much so the doctors decided it was best to put him on antibiotics," she said.

"For the first night he stayed in special care and then Friday I was able to feed him for the first time."

On the Saturday he got the all-clear to go home.

"It was a little bit scary bringing him home but also it felt amazing knowing I could bring him home and he would be in his cot and I could look at him any time or hold him any time I wanted," Ms Riseham said.

Although this was her third pregnancy it was the first time Ms Riseham was able to breastfeed.

"At first it hurt like crazy but I managed to get the hang of it and now it feels great to be able to breastfeed," she said.

Aaron Taylor and Sarah Riseham with their daughter Scarlett Rose Taylor.
Aaron Taylor and Sarah Riseham with their daughter Scarlett Rose Taylor. Contributed

Mr Taylor and Ms Riseham will tell Matthias about the sister he will never meet.

"We most definitely will tell him about Scarlett; she will always be his big sister watching down on him. He might not ever get to meet her but he will also know she is there with him and for him," Ms Riseham said.

Matthias can be titled as a Rainbow baby, a child born after a miscarriage or stillbirth.

"I like the term rainbow baby, I believe it gives you hopes. We definitely had been through a massive storm and because of that we got a rainbow - we were given a second chance."

After an emotional rollercoaster, Ms Riseham said her only advice to anyone else in a similar situation was to stay strong.

"Even though at times things will be hard with every emotion and constantly worrying about everything that might go wrong, things will get better. Things will work themselves out but always remember to be strong; you have a guardian angel watching over you."



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